Self Love

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Being in love comes with a number of responsibilities that seems to be countless, in fact it doesn't always mean that someone is compelling you to do something but it is you trying to do more and even thinking of possible ways to make the one you're in love with feel great.
Sometimes we get to see people who are in love with themselves and these types of people tend to lavish their last resources on themselves and even crave for ways to get more and make themselves look better and sometimes even prettier. There are also this set of people that is sometimes misunderstood and some whose love for themselves have gone beyond limits and their actions turn out to hurt other people's feelings as it is understood as greed.

I remember the experience I had at my cousin sister's marriage ceremony. She had just returned from the UK but before her marriage ceremony my brother had already told me that I will be in charge of all the drinks that are to be used at the marriage ceremony.
You can imagine such a responsibility, of being in charge of all the drinks of choice which will be served to everyone on the occasion. Different types of drink for different classes of people that will be coming.
What I noticed on this occasion really shocked me, after I had found some trusted younger relatives of mine that would help me, it was time to serve drinks and we decorated every table with different types of drinks.
Surprisingly just as the event had heated up some more and many more people were coming, we just made sure that the drinks went round again to be served to everyone. While this was going on I found out that some young women were busy hiding their drinks from the view of the sharers.

Within a short period of time this same set of people who had hidden their drinks into their purses and some under the covering of their tables came almost immediately to the ice chests which I've been looking after and started demanding for more drinks and when I asked them if they had not been given any drink before, their reply was that they have seen nor gotten any drinks yet. This made me understand that in the quest of some people trying to over do in order to please themselves especially in public affairs. This can be seen as greed. The young women and some older women who approached me were troubled for a long time until I had to give them some drinks hoping they would leave immediately but only a few left and some among the remaining ones rejected the drinks I gave to them and were choosing the choicest wines. Calling the name of wines that were reserved for the VIP’s in other chests that were in my custody.

I thought of the wisest way to tackle the situation so I won't have to quarrel with them in their level of desire. I told them the costly wines which they have watched me give to the boys who serve are to be given to a specified number of guests and were counted. After I had told them, I thought they would understand and then leave with the drinks I had given to them which adds to the ones they've secured in their bags, they didn't leave. Instead they started giving me ideas that if I give them some and hide away some for myself that even no one will notice it. I thought of shouting at them in anger but in fact that was the day I learned how patient I can be with people of some serious character.
I laughed and ignored them until one of my in laws came and saw how they had clustered around and he shouted at them to move away and even picked a quarrel with a domestic of the elderly one.

I didn't have to bother much since I always make sure to lock where the drinks are. Though they quarrel they still hang around giving around hissing and giving me signs to get some and throw for them. What amazes me honestly is that these set of people who were troubling me so much are well dressed and don't look in any way like beggars but I'm glad and didn't quarrel with them. Now this is what happened later, five months have passed after the ceremony before my sister invited me to a conference. When I got inside the building everything looked new to me but some faces that I was seeing looked familiar.
It took me sometime to recall that one of the women whom I'm still seeing in the conference anytime it holds, is among the ones who had troubled me so much to give her one of the costliest drinks and to hide some away for myself.

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Later when we started talking, I noticed that the women is not in any way a poor woman neither is she coming from a family that is not financially stable but my encounter with her made me understand that it is good to treat people with wisdom, had it been I picked quarrel with her and what if I agreed to her ideas back then? If there should be any great opportunity that should come my way, she will either want to be my partner in crime again or see me as someone who cannot be trusted. I really appreciate the way I didn't betray my brother's trust and I know that even the women will be glad to hand over important things to someone like me in their own ceremonies or events as no one loves to be on the losing side with a cheater.
Love is indeed a beautiful thing and those who love themselves should make sure that their desire to have more goodies for themselves won't hurt or affect other people who are also supposed to benefit from it.

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