DON’T BE MAD

Don’t be mad is something people say when there is strive or misunderstanding amongst themselves. In every relationship, there is always something that will cause a misunderstanding but the ability for you to identify what you’ve done wrong and do better or the ability for you to forgive your partner when they do something to you is what either makes or mar that relationship. When it comes to anything that involves more than just yourself, you have to be willing to forgive because you could offend your own self how much more someone else.

Most people go into a relationship with the mind that everything should be all rosy and no thorns but it’s only a matter of time before you see that there is more than meets the eye. We are so quick to say we love our partners but the moment they do something wrong to us, we start treating them even worst than strangers. The reason is simple, this happens because we expect more from them than we expect from others. I mean, this person knows me more than most people out there so he or she should be the least person to hurt me or make me mad at them.

While listening to this song by Paul Kim this morning, the first thing that came to my mind was writing about what it means just the way it resonates with me. Before even knowing what the song meant, I loved it because it was calm and soothing and after knowing what it means, I only loved it more. I can’t even count how many times I have offended my partner and how many times he has also offended me. But one thing was certain, I don’t want to stay mad at him for a long time and I’m sure he thinks the same way too. We have had days when we didn’t communicate with each other because we were mad at each other and it wasn’t easy for any of us.

One of the mistakes I feel most people make when they are in a relationship is thinking that there is a lot of time to not forgive their partner just to prove that they are so mad at them. Well, news flash, have you ever thought about the fact that you might not get that chance to speak with that person again? Especially for those who are away from each other. Life is so uncertain and no one knows what the morrow holds. Yes, be mad at your partner for what they have done but don’t stay mad at them for too long. Loving is hard but it is the only thing that makes us feel alive (Ed Sheeran- Photograph). Do you know how almost everything makes no sense when you are not in good terms with those you love?

It hurts to stay back to talk after a misunderstanding and I struggle with that too so I can understand it very well. But I have come to realize that some of the misunderstandings can easily be resolved when we just talk about why we are mad with our partner or why they are mad at us. Keeping quiet will only extend the misunderstanding and might even get worst to the extent you both start doubting what you share. We are not magicians that we can know why our partners are mad at us and vice versa but then, we shouldn’t try to talk ourselves into believing that we didn’t do anything wrong. Even if we are right, your main concern should be knowing why your partner is not happy with you.