Don't Say You Love Me

Words they say are a powerful thing, they can make or break a person. And some words carry more weight than others. In this case, such words are supposed to be used with a lot of care.

Have you ever thought that if everyone uses the words I Love You thoughtfully, the relationship world could be a lot less complicated?

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The meaning of The word I love you has been very much tainted to some people that they do not know what to believe anymore.

Growing up, I was raised by parents who never said the words I Love You.
Good luck hearing the magic word from many African parents of their time lol 😆

But I felt loved by them every second of the day. I never had to doubt if they loved me. Their actions always speak louder than their voices. I could feel their love by the way they would speak to me, kindly and with a lot of compassion. I felt love because of how much they sacrificed and still do for me, and how far they are willing to go just to see that I'm okay.

Every day, every hour, every minute, and every second that passed by I knew how deeply they loved me even without them ever saying it in words.

And I think this kind of helps me know what to look out for when I start hearing the I Love You from outside. Can I feel it in my heart? Or I'm just hearing it.

Fast forward to when I reached the dating age, I heard the I love you
Uncountable times from people who simply only needed something from me, people who just wanted me for what they could get and not necessarily because they cared that much about me or saw me for who I am.
and that was when I began to give these magic words a second thought. Yes, a lot of people might find it so easy to say but one has to be very careful whether to believe or not.

I'm the kind of person who will never say that magic word unless I know it is true from the depths of my heart. Unless of course, my life depends on it, like a gun pointed at my head kind of situation lol. 😆 any malicious suitors thinking they can trick me into any form of commitment, by making me say the magic words, then good luck with them.

But sometimes, I see people use it just like a free meal ticket, with an agenda, simply to get what they want and not necessarily care about that person.

This can cause confusion or heartbreaks in the end. Confusion in the sense that, some do not know what to believe anymore because they have heard the I Love you many times which turned out to be false in the end and they no longer know if it's real or not.

And heart breaks when someone believes the words and it turns out to be false in the long run.

I still remember my roommate from my NYSC days, who came home one day teary-eyed because she found out that a guy who had turned these magic words into a chorus and sang to her for the last couple of months had been nothing but a cheat all along.

This award-winning group of singers called, Fifft Harmony captures this thought of mine perfectly when they sing, Don't say you love me