Keys of Acceptance

In what was a somewhat surprising announcement, we discovered that after auditioning a month ago, Smallsteps was accepted into a music school. And while she is nervous of the change (which will happen after summer), she has decided that no matter what, she wants to accept the offer and give it a go. As a girl who is a bit shy in nature, she has also become far braver over the last year, putting her hand up for things she wouldn't have earlier, and attempting things she wouldn't have tried earlier also.

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I think she has started to recognise where her strengths lay.

Her going to the new school changes quite a lot for our logistics and makes organisation a lot harder for a little while at least, as currently she can walk to school. Later, it is buses and trams, and still a long walk to get there. But, as she is also getting older, it will get easier and easier and the routines will set in.

Personally, I am glad that she was accepted and wants to go, because while it might not make too much difference in primary school, later, she will get automatic admission into a secondary school in the city, which has a very good music program also. There are no real "music" schools here, but there are a few around that have more focus put on specifics. There are also some that focus on math also, but the kids that go to that school are well, - built to be good at math.

I wish I was built to be good at something.

Since I am not, I have to try and be good at something and perhaps that will be parenting. I don't think I am a natural parent like my wife though, so I think I have to work a bit harder at it. What I am trying to do though is be a decent support for what she might be good at, even though she might not realise what she might be good at herself yet. Music is something I saw in her since she was a baby and when she sat for 45 minutes as a three year old on the piano at her auntie's place, gently testing all the sounds, I knew she had it in her. She has been playing piano officially for a year now, and she is doing very well so far.

But more than the musical skill support skill, I think that there is a benefit to be around kids who are similarly interested in school itself, as she is. She is good at math, good at writing, good at reading and good at all kinds of things where she needs to focus to learn and improve. She likes school, not because of what she learns, but because of being able to learn itself. The kids at her new school are more likely to be similar to her, which means less class disruptions, and more time for teachers to be able to spend on development. In her current class, there is a broad range of children and learning desires, from a few like her, to those who are not interested at all - but take the majority of the teacher's time.

I think she will excel.

And have a bit more "competition" where people are interested in improvement also. This is something that has worried me a bit at her current school, because she doesn't have to really stretch herself to excel there, and things are a bit too easy. I was similar at her age, but never got the support to improve, so when things did get harder, I was left behind, because I didn't have the habits in place.

And I still suffer my childhood learning.
Or lack thereof.

But for now, I don't need to worry about any of that and instead we are going to go into the city to have a burger (Smallsteps' choice) to celebrate her admission. This is a big thing, but I want to get myself better at marking occasions of note with her, because I think it makes a difference to her life now, and maybe to her memories later.

I might be living a little vicariously, but today I don't care.

Taraz
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Being a parent doesn't come with a manual, but you're doing amazing. Supporting Smallsteps in his passion for music, celebrating his achievements -a bouquet of roses after every performance- and caring about his development shows how much you care. You don't need to be perfect, just present, as you clearly are. She is lucky to have you as that solid support that encourages her to explore and grow. Enjoy every step, those moments will be etched in her memories forever. Keep it up!

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Maybe one day she will write a song about her parents, and it won't be completely full of complaints :)

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I think with all the skills she acquiring, a bright future lies ahead of Smallsteps. It's commendable you're offering your bit as a parent, your support and encouragement. By the time she becomes an adult she'd have had a stable life and you and your wife will be glad you raised her the way you're doing right now.

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Honestly these days, I am not even sure if there is a bright future for anyone, but I am hoping that we are giving her the resources to make the most of whatever there is.

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Becoming good at parenting is like becoming good at some other endeavour when the rules and objective are constantly and arbitrarily changing. Way harder and way more noble.

These victories and achievements are best celebrated as a family rather than individually and I think you are killing it.

Not only that, but learning that you can learn anything you put your mind to is so valuable for a happy and productive life. Plus, music is the gift that keeps on giving as a creator of joy.

These small steps certainly seem to be the right ones in the right direction my friend.

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The arbitrarily changing rules is a hard one to deal with and these days, looking to the past doesn't tell as much about what is needed for the future.

Plus, music is the gift that keeps on giving as a creator of joy.

I hope she learns how to sing well, as well as instruments. The voice travels.

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You are really supporting smallsteps and I appreciate you for that. I'm very sure she will be good at it because she very intelligent and smart

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I would be wrapped up in her as the round-trip seems to be not easy for a child at her age, at least in Istanbul.

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It is a funny thing here - kids walk to school from 7 years of age.

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I did too, but I can't feel safe for children in today's world.

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Huge congrats to your family, especially Smallsteps. She is growing into her own now and the new school will develop her music skills and allow her to hone in on something she loves. It seems like a hugely positive move. I Hope she loves it!

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It was so cute. The last day to accept was today, but we only found out last night, as the email went into a spam folder last week! However, she woke up just to ask again to make sure we enrolled her :)

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Oops! You dodged a bullet with that one. It truly is cute how excited she is. I don't know you guys at all but I'm excited for her too 🤣

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Nice post

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You obviously didn't get the sarcasm, so I will be clear.

Your comments are absolutely terrible. It would be appreciated if you don't comment again on my posts.

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That's pretty awesome that she made it in. Even with the singing portion that she was nervous about. That is really cool. The logistics might be hard, but they will be more than worth it. Congrats to her!

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We were really surprised! It is not that she is a bad singer, but she also isn't a good singer yet. She has potential though.

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I look forward to hearing about her reaching that potential on this new adventure!

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Congrats to small steps! And to you. You are most definitely a great father, natural.. Just take a look at your fabulous kid!

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She is fabulous for sure, though I think she got lucky :)

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I'm glad you were accepted to music school. I remember you thought it would be a bit difficult. Congratulations. There's nothing better than a person getting a profession and education according to their talent.

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Congrats to her! 😉😎🤙 It's cool how u can see her taking bolder and bolder steps now. At some point, we, as parents, have to just take a wait and see approach and let them live..

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Congratulations to Smallsteps! Best wishes to her in music school!

I think it's normal for all parents to think they aren’t natural, but as long as you are a good support, example and really know about the things she is interested in, talk about what a good parent you are and I'm sure she knows it. Greetings from Poland! Sorry if the translation is not good, English is not my native language. 🤗🤗

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