Relationship spotlight

Source

Different topics on how to have and maintain good relationships are vast on the internet. Even with all the enlisted information on maintaining a good and healthy relationship, every month hundreds of relationships certainly get broken and couples go their separate ways. Most relationships that actually lasted till marriage and still went on most times weren't the ones which the couples had to read books on. In other words, most relationships that lasted started naturally and continued smoothly with less struggle.

Yes reading books and articles on relationships helps a lot especially where one seems to be falling short in important areas. One of the things that badly affect relationships is lack of communication. This includes avoiding honest conversations and not being open to voice out one's feelings especially when there is a need to. This mistake itself cannot be generalized as a common mistake everyone makes in relationships but there are those who are guilty of this one.
Those people can get better at communication and understanding its benefits through reading books, magazines, listening to podcasts on relationships and even watching videos.

There are also people in relationships who have trust issues and having trust issues in a relationship can lead to anything not good at all, from lots of false accusations to fighting and quarreling, great violence which can even lead to death when dangerous weapons are involved. In most cases, I was opportuned to listen to some of the statements of men and women who had mistakenly and some who had intentionally killed the ones they're in a relationship with and I found out that Jealousy, dishonesty including secrecy can lead to anything deadly in a relationship.

Being disrespectful is another issue in relationships that needs to be addressed and it becomes a problem when those in a relationship constantly criticize one another, women belittling men and men belittling women or even having a dismissive character that is not right.
Neglect and infidelity is even worse as it sounds and this can lead to anything terrible if not death. I'm one who most times learn from real crime events and I've discovered that some people can be so much in love with the one they're in a relationship with to the extent that even when they know their partner is cheating on them, they can hunt down those whom their partners are cheating with and kill them leaving their partners alive.

I figured out that those who are deeply in love with someone can sometimes do something really crazy and unimaginable you can't even make good sense of. There are some who could kill their partner once caught in the act of cheating. Neglect is in itself terrible because from my experience there are ladies who are quite okay with ignoring their partners emotional and physical needs, physical needs in this aspect mustn't just be anything sexual, this could be other things men value in a woman more than sex. But sadly most of these women in their time of need will want their partners to possibly bring down the treasures of heaven to their footstool.

Source

Another problem in relationships is poor conflict resolution. Many of the problems I enlisted here can be properly handled or solved even though reading books, listening to podcasts, watching videos on topics on relationships and lots more but doing all these is not enough without its proper application. Most of the matter concerning relationships has to do with emotional control, if one can't control his or her emotions, how then can things work out well? It's best to not enter into a relationship when you know you're not emotionally ready.

There are things people who want to enter relationships should be certain of before agreeing to be together and one important thing is compatibility, when the lifestyle of the one you love is different from yours which you don't like but you're hoping he or she will change possibly through your efforts then you're simply the one willingly putting yourself in the frying pan and waiting for the fire. For someone to genuinely change is beyond our capability and I can say its divine.

In most cases there are early signs that could trigger red flag alerts to run for your dear life early enough but the problem remains that many of us always ignore those signs. The issue of relationships is not for children, in fact most people who are in jail today are as a result of what relationships pushed them into or to put it better, they ended up in jail as a result of what they were pressured to do to keep the relationship going or to meet up with demands. I believe that when we are able to handle most of the problems I listed above in our relationship we can be able to enjoy our relationships in a better dimension and more importantly, a relationship requires a certain level of maturity. Thank you for stopping by.