Seeing and ticking boxes
It's often easy to feel sorry for oneself, to feel hard done-by or that the cards are stacked against us and so many do it, or have done it, at certain points of life; I'm no different. It's a reasonably normal or human thing I suppose and even though we know it'll not carry us forward in any better way it can be difficult to avoid...but avoid it we must.
I've learned many lessons in life, the power of ownership, responsibility and discipline amongst them; additionally is the understanding that thoughts dictate attitudes and combined they affect actions and it's all of those together that help us move forward in better ways - something that extends to pretty much all aspects of life. Want to do better? Then do better, it's pretty simple.
I was in hospital recently for testing and evaluation based around my health condition - it's a periodic thing - and the results I received were amazingly good; I use the word amazing because the doctors used it. The quacks asked how hard I work to gain those results and the answer? Well, I assume you'll know it, the answer is incredibly hard and super-consistently. That's how good results are created, not by feeling sorry for myself.
I walked away feeling pretty good - I get results like this three times a year when I go for my check-ups - and felt liked I'd ticked the ownership, responsibility, discipline, right thoughts, attitudes and actions boxes yet again. Considering the result of not doing so is a premature death it just seems like the right thing to do.
I often think about others and how they handle the same situations when I'm at the hospital surrounded by people who may be far worse off than I am. Are they maintaining the right mental attitudes or not, are they being coached on how to, do they have someone in support as I do, the right doctors, specialists, medical infrastructure, friends and family to help with the emotional side of adversity? Do they even want to stay in the right place mentally and emotionally? I don't know the answers, but I hope they're able to tick those boxes.
I'm fortunate to have had the volition to gain understanding and knowledge throughout life and I use them to good effect - I do it under my own steam - but many choose not to and I wonder if that causes them to wallow in their problems rather than see them for what they are - opportunities to do better, work harder, be mentally and emotionally stronger, and to find ways to do that. I hope the latter. The first steep is seeing the need for it I guess.
Have you ever gone out of your way to build such skills, attitudes and mindset? How have you done so? Books, seminars, podcasts, advisors and so on and if so how has the process been and what results were gained? Feel free to comment.
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When I read the title and saw the picture I said: ya! after the man's flu his eyesight problem got worse... thank goodness you're just a walking drama and we love you. 😄😁
I'm still suffering with the man flu...worst thing ever, but my eye sight isn't effected...although don't tell my nurse that as she may make me go make my own coffees!
I'm hope today, a day off, not sick leave, and am catching up on some rest after burning the candle at both ends for too many days in a row. I'm not really feeling much better but the rest will do me good.
Try to rest. And tell the nurse to keep her outfit on. Hahaha...a hug.
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I think I have always faced difficulties and what came out of that was growth. There was a time in my youth when I used to complain and wallow in my own misfortune. Not so much any more... I don't consider myself a machine, of course there are things that affect me emotionally and mentally. But when that happens, I give myself time and get better, until I get over it. Over time I also learned to deal with it alone. Maybe I'm already in need of a madhouse.... But you know... I'm not aware of that yet.
Yeah, the outfit...it's pretty cold here so it's not really a thing although I have tried to encourage it. Lol.
I like what you say here; we all have things that affect us emotionally and mentally but it's what we do when that happens that matters and while having support is awesome we also need to know how to proceed without it.
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Hi Galen, I am glad to read this good news and hope you are now fully recovered from the man flu. I have never blamed others for what happens to me, for better or worse.
I differentiate criticism from other situations I have experienced of exclusion and harassment. criticism makes me grow, and the biggest critic I have is myself, and in places that don't want me, I just leave.
With discipline and at an age when most people accept that their future is already written, 28 years old,.... I decided to take advantage of the fact that I was working at night to study the career that opened other doors for me.
Greetings
Discipline is something that each person should apply but sadly for many they do not whi h leaves them in a situation in which they do not achieve at their best level. It's a choice though, and if people choose to achieve at a lower level then they have to also accept that they'll probably not enjoy their life to the full extent. Discipline and effort will earn a person more than laziness.
You said it yesterday, discipline, effort and passion.
And now I'm going to work, best regards
The wallowers offend me. I have known too many of them in the past and even now I still know a couple. The ones that don't make an effort to change their negative behaviours to affect their current situation. Gaaar. Annoying as feck!
Yeah, they exist here on Hive too, Amy for instance. Wallower and a fucktard as well.
@amirl
Walllowing, fucktardery, chisholmswallowy. There is no end of it anywhere in life!
The mentally retarded are...well, mentally retarded.
@amirl
You could say it is mental! :OD
Yeah man, almost as mental as having fucken break dancing at the Olympics.
I wonder if Amy Levy would be a good break dancer; we know he loves singing Spice Girls songs, maybe he loves break dancing too.
@amirl
You never know who likes a good break dance! The olympics is goosed. They let anything in now
I haven't thought about it too much, but I create these positive mental ticks for myself through my hobbies of handmade crafting, gardening & travelling.
I'm overall a pretty joyful and happy person so it's not very hard for myself to maintain a healthy mindset.
Hopefully that's always the case and you can maintain it in times of adversity when they strike. Well done.
Reading this made me think about the challenges we face and how we deal with them. It's so easy to feel sorry for ourselves when things get tough. I've felt that way too. It's a normal human reaction, but we have to push past it if we want to move forward.I can relate to your experiences as I’m also dealing with health issues. It’s definitely challenging to stay positive with these conditions. Reading books, talking to a psychologist, and connecting with people close to me have always given me new strength.Why give up if there's still so much to do? Having good support makes things easier, definitely! I'm glad your results are amazing. Hearing those words from a doctor is always great for mental health! Stay healthy!
Sometimes people have a propensity for this sort of thought and other times it's learned throughout the hardship and adversity they face...and some never learn it. Fortunately for you and I we've learned the benefit of doing so and the ways to keep thoughts and attitudes in the right zone...mostly.
Yes, you are right, mostly ;) We learn throughout our lives. There are always new challenges, but with the right attitude, we can find a great way of living. I know it is easy to say that, and doing it is a little bit harder. But without trying, we will never know what life can bring to us.
First of all, I am extremely happy that everything went well and that the results are surprisingly good, which is undoubtedly to your credit.
I am happy about that.
And yes, I have made great efforts, especially since 2012, which made the difference, to change the mentality to change the reality, and the physical as well.
How I did it? first with seminars that were published on the internet, talks, then with an internal process that took quite a long time and then books to improve more and more every day.
As a child I was always sick and I didn't realise that a lot of it was emotional, when I healed many emotions the ailments went away.
Thanks, another period of not dying seems pretty good to me too.
Good work on getting things under control, so many do not.
Not dying is good, we can continue to enjoy life, until the next one comes.
It was a lot of effort, without it there is nothing in life.
I like to read books that remind me of how much I have in life, even if it seems little. Man's Search for Meaning - is a good one and I just recently finished The Forgotten Highlander
also books on Buddism, reflection and other WW2 books
There's a lot of wisdom to be gained through books and other people's experiences and their reflections on them.
I think it’s important to have a will to live and a purpose. Too many people just exist and don’t have the will to do better as much as they can. It’s for sure challenging to make sure the bio markers are in good shape but I’m glad to hear you’re doing well in that regard.
Existing is a shit use of life, living makes more sense right?
In life, feeling sorry for oneself over situations and circumstances is like getting ready, the hangman's noose. Everyone passes through "things' so bemoaning one's fate is never the way out but taking conscious and determined actions/steps to do it better and harder to achieve desired results.
I'm glad to hear that you came out "clean" , keep it on!
You've hit the nail on the head, well said, I couldn't have said it better myself.
I haven't read any books or anything like that, but I honestly think that life is one of the best teachers for some of those skills. You just have to live it and experience it. Unfortunately, these days people are avoiding actually living and they aren't gaining the coping skills to deal with different circumstances. For example, sometimes crappy things just happen. It's not anyone's fault, and there doesn't need to be someone to blame, you just need to suck it up and move on.
Suck it up and move on, yep I agree...but many people are soft these days.
Gats be books man....
A good tale can make a mans life, no matter how hard the life is, be even more pleasurable...
Building skills by books are also good, seminars are a lot more work, plus so many are even more costly...
There's so many ways to gain the wisdom we need to lead better lives...the trick is deploying what we learn otherwise nothing happens.
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