RE: How do you just fall in love with someone else?
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I've been in my fair share of relationships. While I still like the idea of romance, I realize I was much more of a romantic when I was younger. Over time, I’ve come to believe that we’re drawn to certain people for a reason—sometimes to learn lessons that may seem harsh at first but ultimately serve us in unexpected, positive ways. Our lives have so many seasons. I’ve always enjoyed people...their quirks, their perspectives, and what I can learn from them. But I’ve also realized that meaningful connections don’t always require physical intimacy. Looking back, it’s striking how much we change as individuals, and how rare it is for two people to grow in the same direction. Or at least closely enough to sustain a truly healthy relationship. It’s possible, but I think it’s rare. Too often, couples stay together out of convenience, even when it comes at the expense of their well-being.
I like how you phrased that - "I've always enjoyed people". It's a marker of a good life. Enjoying being around people and learning from them.
As for the rest, 100%. Yeah. It's hard, I imagine. The older we get, the less inclined we become to have to start all over again, so there's great courage too to realizing you're no longer growing at the same rate. And it seems to me, from what I know of you, you're still a very romantic person in the way you carry yourself. Cause I don't think that's just pertaining to love or romantic relationships, I think it's a way of seeing the world and interacting with interest, as if it's a larger thing you're part of and you can move towards better. Which you seem to do. :)
That's a great point! Being a romantic is so much more than just romantic relationships. That's certainly my life-philosophy. It being a romantic, at its base level, just means you're generally optimistic about life.