Say please.
Thank you is very important to say, as @riverflows points out very nicely in one of her recent posts. I'm one who prefers "Thanks" in all it's variations, including "My heart sings with boundless gratitude towards your aiding hand in troubled times!"
But was is "please"? I thought about that a little. What do we mean when we say it? It's coming with pleasing, so the etymology is probable the imperative of to please - hence, please me! Now, dirty mind that I have, I can't stop thinking of that whenever I say "please". Both good and bad. I hope it doesn't affect my openness to saying "please" to people I'd rather not have pleasing me, in that sense.
Though I doubt it. I say please at least as often as thank you. There's that one song that always pops up in my head when I think about this word. It starts slow, nice and easy - until that Milchbubi as we'd call him in Germany starts shouting "Please". Goosebumps!
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Saying please is also a deconstruction of hierarchy. The person asking for the favor acknowledges that the other person is in the position to help. In most cases, it's a good idea to either get on the same level or even pretend to be on a lower level, petting the ego of the other. Though that's probably not consciously, it still helps. But it leaves room for abuse. Being in the unique position to help, or to do something for the other person, and forcing them to beg for it can be an extreme - if the other doesn't understand the meaning of the word "no".
This title is another one from the indie/alternative rock band that I like quite a lot because they are, as their music, a little weird. Italian band, danish name, that combo by itself is already funny. I think this song is already very popular, though I personally got exposed to it quite recently, like half a year ago.
A no is a no. I'm usually quite fine with that. Acceptance is due, and I'm enough of a problem solver that I can always find and alternative solution. It's also a show of self esteem to accept it, without falling into a black hole of depression. If you rely on someone else to keep you happy, it's not happiness. It's a band-aid, not a cure.
Amy Winehouse is one of my all time favorites. We played her "Back to Black" yesterday, since finally one of the greatest singers in town came to the Jamsession again. We dusted up a lot of the songs that we sang with her 4 years ago. It's funny because she doesn't speak any English, but still managed to get through the songs nicely. And her voice is so amazing, nobody cares about words, anyway.
Post written for the #saturdayselections by Galenkp inviting us to share music in the Weekend Experiences community on Saturdays.
As someone with dirty mind, "please me" is just 🥴😂. But kidding aside, please is like asking something to someone in a nice way. Sometimes we can use it with annoyance, sometimes if we want to be polite and most times when begging someone to, you know, something like that. Well, it really has a lot of meaning so 🥒, in a good and dirty, I mean bad ways.
By the way never heard about Amy Winehouse but her voice is really super good. I like Beggin', All I can remember in that song was Moose from Step Up 3D, when their dance. Oh gosh, remembering them again made me want to rewatch. I also like Beautiful Things, Benson has a really a powerful and unique voice there.
I'm glad I got you to Amy Winehouse! She was an exceptional musician. You might want to dig into her music if you liked that one. I'm happy that you enjoyed today's selection!
And yes, everything can have a double meaning :-D
There was / is a coffee shop in the city called "Please Say Please". I don't drink coffee, so I don't go in there, but it is a striking name for a business.
I decided to listen to the Winehouse song, because I never have. With the knowledge that she is a dead woman - and the imagery of the music video - it adds an additional layer of context.
The cinematography is very well done too, can really tell that there was a unified, intentional force behind the video, the music, and the delivery of the performance.
Wow, you're the second person commenting that didn't know Amy Winehouse. That's weird to me. She was a great musician, a genius perhaps, but life does not treat a genius kindly. Stepping out of Plato's cave so far from everyone else must be hard.
I honestly never focused too much on the video. I'm happy that you enjoyed it, and found value in it. I will do a focused rewatch (and hearing!) tomorrow, when I'm a little less tired.
Maybe I should watch the biopic about her life. Have you seen it, is it any good?
I don't know, haven't seen it. I wasn't even aware it existed... 😅
Subconsciously, it does something to our reasoning process when we hear the word "please". For me it's usually putting more attention to what is being asked and figuring out ways to go above and beyond to get it done. When I'm the one saying it, I must be in a really down bad situation to utter it but it's almost like second nature to say "thank you" for almost everything I received, be it earned or not, significant or not.
Amy Winehouse's song is a real classic, especially with that setting and those costumes! I love the beat, it's constant throughout the song with a few variations in intensity :)
Interesting. I got so used to being asked for favors (mainly for money loans) that I sometimes cringe when I hear the word "please" 😅 But that depends on the person.
Why is it difficult for you to ask for favors?
Lol, yes. The reaction can change from person to person :D
It's mostly around the perceived concept of not being a burden to someone else or indirectly falling into those type of favours that people subconsciously keep score of, meaning now I owe them one too, and they'll come asking for it whenever they may need it. Essentially, it's sort of like being in debt, but in a less tangible sense.
The keeping score is interesting, I know that from many. It's a flawed concept, the one of keeping scores. I try not to keep any scores at all, but help when I can, if I can. There are things that we should not be handled with a trader-mentality. I just wrote a post about generosity, that explains a little more.
https://peakd.com/@beelzael/take-that