Simply because

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It's not every week, thank goodness it's not that frequent, when I feel the need for...I suppose I feel the need to withdraw, to find a place where I can push my troubles away and simple be Becca without all the complexities.

Men tend to simply push forward when they feel a certain way or through troubles that have arisen, they fight it out. Women, or this one at least, think...I'll cope somehow, I'll do what I must to make it through. I don't think either is wrong, it's just the different ways males and females think and act, generally speaking.

Over the last few days to a week I've done a little of both; fought my way forward and taken actions that have helped me cope and I'm doing ok. I feel happy despite things going on around me that cause complications and stresses.

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I took this image

I believe we often create complexity when there could be simplicity and that can lead to blockages, thoughts and attitudes that could inhibit our progression through a set of circumstances and towards the future. And, as we all know, simply worrying about how difficult something may be won't carry us through it.

With this is mind I tend to step my way through my days and the troubles they may visit upon me and move forward little by little and I find the destination becomes a little closer each time; I repeat that process over and over and life takes shape. It's preferable to do it this way, small gains more often.

Sometimes I feel the need to simply stop though, find a moment or two and simply rest my mind, body and soul. I did this yesterday and I needed it badly.

I made a pot of tea, and took it outside to sip while surrounded by my garden. It was cold but an overcoat, scarf and beanie took care of that...and I enjoyed the feeling of being snuggled up with myself and surrounded by the serenity I find in my garden. I put a playlist on and sat there listening to music for an hour feeling comfortable and comforted by the simple moment.

I guess that hour was partially me simply coping, but it was also proactive, not quite a fight, but certainly positive action to help me progress...a step in the right direction. Below are three tracks that played in that hour and I picked these out because...simply because I like them.

Becca 💗

Waiting on the world to change

I'm yours

Let her go




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Hi Becca!

It's true, women think and act differently than men, maybe they are more practical... I don't know, but many times the mind plays tricks on us, it overwhelms us... and we need that solitary space... we feel lost and need to find ourselves again. We are special. Don't forget that, you are very special, you, me and every woman in this world.

How many hard things happen to us but we get through it, we are strong, but sometimes we don't see it.

Whatever happens you will get through it, because that strength will emerge.

These songs are beautiful, I like them all, especially the last one... I even get emotional. Today is a special day for me and I read your post... it's not a coincidence, it's causality.

Thank you Becca! Hugs!❤️

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I think men get their feeling of self-worth and value (confidence?) from achieving things, being seen to be competent and that's why the drive at things so hard, even to their own detriment sometimes. This doesn't mean women don't do the same, I just think it's done for different reasons and in different ways.

I'm glad you like the songs I shared this week and I hope your special day was as special as possible. I believe we all need (and deserve) special things in life so I hope your day was lovely.

Becca 🌷

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That's right, I totally agree Becca.

And yes I had a beautiful day, lots of greetings and a very warm atmosphere, thank you very much.

❤️

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I had a moment of depression the other day. Which is pretty uncharacteristic for me. My wife even commented on it. Eventually it passed. I don't know as though I did anything different, it just moved on and so did I. I think it's good to just take some time alone. Best of luck!

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I think that's normal, will all the thoughts we have, conscious and non, there's no wonder a shadow passes over us now and then. Maybe it's required, like, something our minds cause to happen to make us reflect or think differently for a moment so that we can take stock, order things, and then move forward.

Becca 🌷

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Yeah, it's just so rare that I get like that. It took both of us off guard. I have a half hour drive to work each day. That gives me a good hour of quiet time to decompress.

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I understand, and due to its rarity it affected you more than it probably should have. I guess you know this, but listen to yourself and be open to how that makes you feel, think and your attitudes. I know you're a smart man so probably do this already. Find some moments to be still and at peace with yourself and the answers will reveal themselves.

Becca 🌷

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