What I wish I knew vs. now.
At first, I didn't understand or... let's say I didn't want to understand why my mom did the things she did. How those little things seem to bring a smile to her face. Gardening, arranging and rearranging, and whatnot! It was always stressful in my eyes when I found her doing them, but I had no problem with that, but with something else.
Participating!
I didn't understand why she would ask me to plant something, weed out something, and to water the plants. "Why are we disturbing ourselves when there are people selling these things?"* I would ask silently, and then I had one answer always pop up, "Stinginess". Lol, I thought my mom was stingy when it came to planting the food we eat because we could have easily accessed them at the market. "Don't she want those people to survive?" I'd question as silently as I can when I am called upon to cut the grass and do those strenuous activities. But then, I'd sigh and get on with working.
And then, it came with clothes. She always gave them out and urged us to do the same, but I didn't understand why I had to give out my favorite clothes. I mean, there are mine, right? Or is it because she got them for me, I'd say with a frown.
But, what I didn't know then was that there was indeed a beauty in gardening, giving out and living in simplicity. I always find them boring and very hectic! However, I got to understand when I first gave out a dress of mine and saw the look of happiness on the person's face. For some unknown reason, that person's smile melted my heart, and I wanted to give out more, shoes, sandals, and more. I derived strange heartwarming happiness from them. It was beautiful and unexplainable.
And when it comes to planting what I eat, gosh! I couldn't help smiling from ear to ear when the beans I planted grew up healthy because I added enough cow dung to it and watered it daily as my mom had instructed. I felt like a proud mother who was asked to make a speech at her daughter/son's wedding when it germinated well and was ready for harvest.
Embracing nature, finding peace and silence more enticing are the things I got to enjoy after practicing minimalism. My life before as a kid now seemed to be a hectic one as I found joy in cleaning, giving out, and cooking what I eat.
I wished I knew and felt all these feelings before because hell! It sure is therapeutic listening to the waves of the sea and watching how the trees dance in perfect sync like there's music before them, and I am sure there is, nature's fine tune.
Images used are mine and video from #YouTube.
Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading and listening.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.
There's a certain beauty in growing older and understanding what we thought made no sense about our elders. I've experienced the same with my grandmother and her love of gardening, of taking care of pot plants in her apartment. I used to think it was "an old person thing". But as you saw yourself, it changes. We are constantly changing. What a beautiful entry! :)
Yes, there's a certain beauty about that. It is heartwarming and sweet. Haha, I thought it was my Mom's thing, lol...
Indeed, we are constantly changing. Thank you for your feedback.
The more we learn to appreciate the simple things, the more we have. <3
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I enjoyed it 😉
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That's right. Thank you 😊.
A quite amazing nature
Lol ohhh strong headed Balikis😂😂
I also feel the same way about giving out clothes. The feeling I get when I see people wearing the clothes I gave to them is indescribable!
Big madam, lol.
Yeah, you are right. Ever since then, I have been giving out a lot of my clothes out. Hehe. Thanks for stopping by big woman
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I had some space in my house here in lagos but never thought of growing veggies and co until mom visited and planted them herself. During harvest, u needed to see how excited I was .. most times, these veggies have come through for me and no one reminded me to continue planting the next year... giving out an item I no longer use is fulfilling especially seeing a smile on the receiver's face
Mom thought u well dear
She deserves a virtual hug now now! 🤗🫂
I look the name well and overlook am sef before I write this one. So, you fit sound like better person small🤣🤣🤣. Mom taught you well too ooo. See as your type fine sentence for me. I am rich
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This is awesome, a great job well done 👍.
I never understood why Mom also did same to me, but my dear sister today I understand very much better and I appreciate her so much, hope you appreciate your mom too.
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Haha, it is better to appreciate them ooo. That's the main koko of the matter.
I felt this same way too... especially when my dad would wake us up around 5:30am to prepare for farm and we would be like"why can't we just live like others that are not farming to eat food???"😂
🤣🤣 omo, if only we knew then, adulthood is now showing us different shades of colours now.
There are a lot of things kids don't understand about parents, why they do the things they do but it is all part of adulthood. They have lived a life we are yet to live, meaning they have more experience than we do. Most times they make decisions out of their experience to make sure we follow the right path. Those things might look ridiculous to us as children but as we grow older we will eventually appreciate things we have learnt.
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Yes. The look very ridiculous to us but now, I know better without being told. Haha.
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As kids, we never understood some of the things our parents did, there are things I never understood while growing up with my aunt too.
Infact, just like you thought your mum was stingy 😂
I thought my aunt was wicked 😂 but now I know better.
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🤣🤣🤣 geez. Things we thought as kids ehn. We just think and be like yeah... that must be it. We really need cane.
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I could relate these to so many aspect especially with my mom. Honestly am envious that you even got to learn gardening from parents..oh mhen.. Now am looking forward to it when the time is right.
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Hahaha... thank you! Oh, yeah, now I cherish it. Good luck with that. Thanks for stopping by and for the late reply
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