Is Jealousy In A Romantic Relationship A Sign Of Love?
Is jealousy in a romantic relationship a sign of love?
Have you heard a humorous adage like "If a man is jealous in a relationship it's cute but when a woman is jealous, it's World war III gearing up?" Hehe.
I've seen so many people confuse jealousy with love but I can liken jealousy to a sign of insecurity and the fear of losing what we love and value.
Well, a right dose of jealousy itself isn't bad because as humans we love to guard our territory especially when someone looks like a threat to what we own.
It's pathetic when lovers take this jealousy thing so deep that they begin to do all sorts of crazy things in the name of guarding what they own.
I've heard of a lover cloning his/her lover's WhatsApp just to keep track of who they chat with and where they go and I find such an attitude very irritating.
Some have even hired guards or a spy to check on their lover's movement and that is another level of insanity.
Do you know that because of this madness, some have even set their lovers up just to see if they will fall for it?
Some hire a stranger to act like they are interested in their lovers and this usually ends badly, because even if the lover doesn't fall for it and finds out that it's all a setup, they begin to lose trust and respect for their partner and the list goes on.
For me, I think couples or lovers need to develop a boundary as to what they accept and what they wouldn't and should be stated clearly before they dive into the relationship.
They should also learn to make their partners feel secure even though they feel threatened by another person coming around.
The truth is, at some point in our relationship we will meet someone who is way cuter than our partner but that's where trust, reassurance and commitment in the relationship come into play.
To illustrate this point this particular song by my favourite artist back in the day comes to mind.
The singer constantly reminds his partner that even though he glances at other girls, they remain that girl, but she's all he wants and that reassurance.
He also reminds her that, she does the same and that he hasn't ever felt insecure because he knows that he'll be the one she'll come home to every night and that's trust.
He went ahead to thank her for being a part of his life and that he chose her over others even though he might meet those who might seem cuter.
This is just an easy way to save that relationship from going sour and I think it should be done genuinely.
How about you, do you think jealousy in a relationship is a sign of love or just an act of insecurity?
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I think a little jealousy is good but communication should also be free flowing between the couple, so that baseless assumptions are not made that can break the relationship.
Communication is very important in a relationship, this is a valid point, thanks for stopping by.
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Like the @beckyroyal said, communication is vital. In some instances, s partner calls for the other to be jealous. Imagine a partner always stepping aside to receive some calls. The issue of trust should come in this instance. The avenue to be trustworthy is provided by each person. If the avenue isn't there, being jealous becomes normal.
Couples or partners shouldn't hide things from each other. It creates cracks that allows the passage of lack of trust.
Trust is a very important ingredient in a relationship and I agree with your point.
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I agree with you that it is an act of insecurity in most cases. Sometimes it is genuine need for validation of some sort too. At other times it can just be an excuse to be toxic in a relationship. Just like one should be judged by actions not words, people should just concentrate on what their partner does rather than who they look at or interact with.
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You are so right, thanks for leaving thoughtful feedback.
There are some human trait such as jealousy that is kind of complex. I mean the right amount jealousy can be seen as a show of affection but when it increases beyond normal it becomes disastrous. In most cases I advise people in relationship to build trust first before anything else and whenever they are involved in any form activities that bring about doubt they should not allow ignorance stand in the way of giving a detailed explanation of what truly happened. Which means both partners have to continuously reassure each other.
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You are so right, it's important to build trust first as it is a very important recipe for a lasting relationship.
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To me, it is normal to feel jealous because it means you love and value what you have but going to the extreme in it becomes insecure. It means one does not trust their partner. This is why it is good to set boundaries just as you have said so that both partners would know where they stand on in their relationships.
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I also agree with your point of view, setting boundaries is very important. Thanks for coming around.
Jealousy is something that we can't escape as humans, especially in a romantic relationship. Just as you've stated, there's a need to mark territory, but I believe it should be in a respectful way.
The act of cloning their partners phone or tracking their partners is an eye sour. That's obsession and stupidity.
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How can someone love you if you do not love yourself first?
Jealousy on the other can be regarded as a sign of love, but still extreme case of jealousy is a red flag in a relationship
This is a very good point of view, thank you for coming around.